Failure to Launch

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle

We all procrastinate.  During times of stress, procrastination kicks in as coping mechanism. However, it is anything but harmless. 

Procrastination is a self-inflicted wound.  We feel good in the present at the expense of long-term goals. It has nothing to do with being lazy.  It does damage to our self-confidence. 

We must exercise positive self-talk.  If you believe you’re a procrastinator, you’ll dismiss all of the evidence that you’re not.  In order to overcome procrastination you have to change your underlying belief of who you are.  The words you use to describe yourself create a self-fulfilling prophecy. 

Another trick when dealing with obligations is to perceive them as opportunities.  Saying things like:  “I get to _____________.”  Instead of “I have to ______________.” A simple change of perspective can switch things from being chores to being action steps toward your success.

To get yourself out of chronic procrastination, you need to create new habits.

Habits determine who you are.   Habits change your beliefs about your identity; identity changes are necessary to sustain behavior change.  The four simple steps to better habits are:  1) cue (obvious) – you notice the reward; 2) craving (attractive) – you want the reward; 3) response (easy) – getting the reward, and 4) reward (satisfying) – teaches us that rewards are worthwhile.         

It is important to:  1) use repetition in reinforcing habits; 2) Make it easy to choose positive habits, 3) Make incremental changes, and 4) have an accountability partner (coach/peer).

C.A.N. is here for you to ensure that you are up to the challenges that lay ahead.  If you would like to discuss the transition to college and how C.A.N. can be of assistance, please fill out the contact us page on our website. http://www.canstudentconsultants.com/

Advertisement

The Power of Your Potential

Are you satisfied with your high school grades?  Do you feel confident that you did the best you could?  If your answer is no, then what is getting in your way?  If you don’t know what is stopping you then you can’t meet your potential.

Consider this:

Change doesn’t have to be drastic

Change is needed to reach your potential

Change can be difficult. When we don’t push ourselves to change our focus and stretch our abilities past our natural strengths we can get stuck into assuming that our potential is a set thing.  That’s a problem.  Instead, we need to defy our and society’s perceptions of our potential and define our world and ourselves in terms of our possibilities not the limitations that society has placed upon us.

We can get blinded by what others tell us are our possibilities.  Don’t let anyone define you.  The first step to getting to your full potential is self-awareness.  This is a powerful skill.  It allows you to see yourself clearly, informs your decisions, weigh your opportunities, and empowers you to understand other people.  It allows you to maximize your strengths and minimize your weaknesses.

What is your strategy for developing greater self-awareness?  Who will you enlist to help you learn, change, and grow?

C.A.N. is here for you to ensure that you are up to the challenges that lay ahead.  If you would like to discuss the transition to college and how C.A.N. can be of assistance, please fill out the contact us page on our website. http://www.canstudentconsultants.com/